Our little girl, Alexandra, whom we refer to as “Alex” is six weeks old already! The time is flying. I thought I would share some thoughts on our first month as a family of four. (This post is a little late getting posted as we are still catching up on everything, as best we can, since having our baby.) The theme of the first month summed up in one word is adjustment. We waited a long time for our little girl to arrive and, as first time parents, we really did not know what to expect once she was here, with us, even though we took classes and read books to try to prepare. Her birth is the biggest change of our lives, a very positive change! However, one cannot really know what it feels like to welcome a child until it really happens.
Our Moms came and helped us during the first month, which was really helpful. Doug was also home, during this time, which was also extremely helpful. My recovery was a little longer than typical due to some complications. Overall, during the first month, we were trying to figure out Alex’s needs such as sleeping and feedings. We also had to remember that everything was and is still new to Alex and she is figuring out her new world as well. Each day was different during the first month. As a result, Doug and I were pretty sleep deprived during this time and we were beginning our adjustment during this monumental transition. My brain, most days, feels a little scattered, evidenced by this article stating that a woman’s brain changes permanently after having a child.
Victory is very good with Alex she licks her feet, legs, ears, and face! However, there are times where we can tell that she likely misses the way things were prior to Alex’s arrival, which is only natural. Doug and I made and continue to make an extra effort to give Victory extra love and hugs along with getting her out for some outings, which was quite challenging to implement the first month, which felt quite chaotic overall. Everyone is adjusting. We look forward to outings this fall when it is cooler and Alex is a little older! However, with time, we are finding our rhythm with Alex, a day at a time, along with helping Victory feel included as she is accustomed to as well.
A few highlights from Alex’s first month include:
-fighting going to sleep quite often — she would stay awake for stretches up to eight hours at a time! She is very alert and it feels like she looks right into your soul with her little almond eyes.
-sleeping, most of the time, only if someone held her! She would wake up as soon as one put her down for sleep — she would open her little eyes right away!
-escaping her swaddles, routinely, so we moved to the velcro swaddle, which has worked really well and they have prevented her hands and feet from moving all around, disrupting her sleep!
-refusing to sleep in her bassinet so we got the Dock-A-Tot, which she really likes and everyone started to get some sleep, as a result!
-crying during her entire first bath at home — but she smelled so nice once we were done! Fortunately, she has done a little better during subsequent baths!
-lifting her head up, even though she does not have control of her head — she looks like a little turtle when she does this!
-enjoying nursing and eating!
-falling asleep often on our chests!
-seeing a couple first smiles!
-enjoying sitting out on the deck getting some fresh air!
-dancing with Doug to music to help calm Alex during her ‘fussy periods!’
-enjoying being read to before bedtime!
A few highlights I would like to remember:
-loving her smell — there is nothing like that wonderful smell and soft, velvety skin of a newborn!
-loving her little almond eyes, which are the darkest blue eyes I have ever seen! I know we are biased, but we think she is just beautiful!
-enjoying being able to nurse our little girl! I cherish this time, knowing it will not last forever, as the days are passing by too quickly and it seems she is physically changing daily!
-getting to see Doug be a dad (in addition to a fur dad) — he is great with Alex and he helps me a lot!
-celebrating my ‘big birthday’ with our little family on Alex’s one month anniversary!
-most of all, getting to be Alex’s mamma!
Doug and I are very grateful for our little girl and little family! We feel so lucky. We look forward to seeing Alex’s little personality develop and unfold. Below are a few images of our precious girl along with some images of Alex and Victory during her first month with us! You can read our birth story along with viewing images from Alex’s birth here. (I aim to take images as life spontaneously unfolds. However, I plan to take one portrait of Alex each month, during the first year, to see the progressive change throughout the year, also shown immediately below!)